[Joe
Mamma]-->In everything you do, make her come to you.
[StripperX]-->This is the worse advice you can give you
idiot!
Any man who waits around for a girl to come to
him is a wimp!
If you really want to know how to get her interested, here are
some tips:
1. Treat her with extreme respect. Most dancers are used to
ass holes coming in and acting all
macho and disinterested. This is especially true
if the girl is super fine. So, don't act like a
common jerk, and she will probably start getting
interested.
2. Let her know you are interested, drop clues
about certain situations you and she could be
in together, you know, get her fantasizing about
you. Find out what turns her on, and subtly make
statments about you and her doing just that. Then
leave, and let her think it over. Stay gone for
a few days. When you return, she will have at the
very least, considered some of the scenarios you
presented to her, and will be giving them some
consideration.
3. About here would be a great time to ask for her
phone number. But try first to ask if she can get
calls at work, and if she would mind if you do this. Then, try
to get her number.
4. Women like persistant, but not pushy men. State
your interest. But don't act like you will die if
she does not like you back.
5. The reason asking her to call you is stupid is
because, only desperate women call men. I don't
care what anyone says, it's just true. Men are the
pursuers, and women are the pursued. Step out of
these guidelines, and that's where trouble starts.
6. If she does not want to give you her number,
DON'T PUSH THE ISSUE! Just state that you understand, and
continue to pursue her, and try
to feel out the situation for when the time is right.
7. Most women don't want a guy who is not truly
interested. And giving her your number and expecting her to
call does not denote any major
interest on your part.
And there's a very important point which needs to
be stated on this particular issue. I have myself
stated to some of the men who pursue me
that I like to go to the man, and not let him come
to me, and I have always said this when I was not
interested in him, and there was not once shred of a
possibility of ever being with him. So take it for what it's
worth. (This rule does not apply to the lesbian dynamics, but
that's another story altogher).
8. Finally. You must be willing to take no for an
answer. She just may not like you, or she may be
deeply involved with someone else at the moment.
Also, you might not be her type, and if this is the case, you
should move on.
This would be the
only instance where backing off from her would
prove in your favor, and she just might come to
you. You have already told her how wonderful she
is, all of the great things you would do for her,
all of the great things the two of you could do
together, but she still rejects you. Backing off
might be the best thing.
But if she is simply confused, and you think that you are
getting mixed signals, so many things could be going on in her
life, that you are not formost in her mind. And if you back
off too far, she just might forget you! So, if you think
there's a possibility of it happening, then you should
continue to pursue her without being too pushy!
CLUES THAT TELL YOU SHE WILL NEVER BE INTERESTED
IN YOU:
a. If she slams down the phone when you call.
b. If she's extremely rude to you, even if you are nice.
c. If she takes and takes, and gives nothing in return, not
even a thank you or a pleasant gesture
such as a card or a happy birthday wish.
d. If she tells you she has a boyfriend (girlfriend) she is
madly in love with, and they
are the love of her life, the one, the only,
blah blah blah.
e. If you are antithic to her type of romantic interest.
9. There's a girl where I sometimes dance who claims to be
happily married. She's straight, and I am a lez. Now she is
coming on
to me, and how I got her to do it was by using the
"picture me and you doing this and that" fantasy
thing. Letting her fantasize about how it would be
to be with me. But when you do this yourself, it is important
to know what she likes (or what she fantasizes or is curious
about), so that you
can appeal to it. Like, this married babe told me
that she was straight and married, but that she
was always curious about what it would be like to
be with a woman.  my cue  .
There has to be a window open, if it's slammed shut, just take
it that way and move along.
SOME THINGS TO TOTALLY AVOID, (unless you want to
totally turn her off):
1. Don't use the "I want to be friends first
routine". Most women have enough "friends",
they
are looking for romance and excitement, not a
potential room mate or buddy.
2. Don't think that just because you are now dating it's time
to stop spending money on her.
Do this at your own risk! Why would she want to
stay with you if other guys with better personalities (i.e.
not shy about dipping into
their pockets) are doing so. NO! You are not special because
you are dating her. She makes her
living off taking money from men. She likes it too, and to
think that you can stop doing so just
because you two are dating will only piss her off,
and dumping you is in her future!
3. By the same token as above, never make the mistake of
thinking that all kinds of guys are
constantly throwing money at her, and you want to
distisguish yourself among them, by showing her
how different you are. The only thing you will accomplish is
leaving the impression in her mind
of how cheap and stupid you actually are! Yes, she
makes wads of money, and she can pay her own bills. Can't you
use your funds to show her how
special she is with flowers, trips and taking her
to nice places?
If you are poor (how did you get
into the strip club?), then, making her things by
hand will always impress her more than anything you buy. This
can be especially true if you have
lots of money, but took the time to do something
personal for her. One guy I was dating (after he was very
persistant and showed interest) had enough money to buy me the
nicest flowers, but he showed up at my door with a handful of
wild flowers that he had hand picked, while being barked at by
dogs and neighbors of the house he took them from. I was
completely impressed and touched by it! And I don't even like
men!
I hoped some of this has helped you out.
Sincerely,
StripperX |
