[Bodysurfer]-->There
are too many professional dominants in the world!!! If you
want a submissive, you're just out of luck.
Are there any clubs that allow spanking, bondage, role
playing, and that sort of thing in Los Angeles or San Diego?
Anyone who works individually? I'd love some guidance here.
[GreenDog]-->Kinky much?
Okay, at the risk of revealing WAAAAAY too much about myself
here, I'll field this question.
While there are many professional "players" who
operate independently, most, as you correctly guessed, work as
dominants/"tops". Frankly, there's more demand for
it. Fortunately, there are a couple of reputable professional
dungeons in the L.A. area that employ submissives and/or
switches: Lady Laura's in the West Los Angeles area and The
Chateau in the San Fernando Valley. The modeling club Eros
Station has a dungeon as well, but I don't believe they employ
any "bottoms".
Rags like L.A. WEEKLY have an alternative section that might
help you hook up with amateur players. Also, there is an
excellent BDSM education club/organization in the area that
you can find listed in the back of the highly recommended
"how to" books SM101 (by Jay Wiseman) or SCREW THE
ROSES, SEND ME THE THORNS (by Philip Miller and Molly Devon).
I won't mention the club by name here, but its meaning has
something to do with crossing through a doorway. (I'm sure you
can figure it out from there.) It's a great place to learn how
to hurt someone just right . . . without actually damaging
them. It's possible that you can meet some submissive play
partners at one of their quarterly parties. (However, like
nudist colonies, the club welcomes all consenting adults of
various ages, body shapes and sizes, so be forewarned.)
In Silver Lake, across the street from Circus of Books, I
think there's still a small store named something like
"Magick & Fetish Shop". The proprietress gives
monthly tutorials on how to administer a spanking, among other
topics.
On Saturday nights at Club 7969, there's Sin-A-Matic, a dance
club that has a back room with a live BDSM show.
Unfortunately, it's generally limited to whomever the male and
female dominants, Aryn and Shaydee, want to pull up on stage.
The L.A. WEEKLY will also list some fetish fashion
balls/dances, but those are mostly for people who like to wear
(cool?)(hot?) leather or latex outfits. In other words,
posers.
If you want to dress the part, your best bet for shopping is
still along Santa Monica Boulevard in West Hollywood. There
you'll find BDSM stores like Dream Dresser, Whiplash, 665,
Pleasure Chest, etc. However, most players know that a tack
store (where you buy equestrian supplies) is a great source
for riding crops and stuff like that. A really great (and
relatively inexpensive) source of equipment is the internet
site, The Stockroom (former JT's Toys). Actually, almost every
business I mentioned above has its own web site.
Good luck, and remember: Sometimes, you have to be cruel to be
kind.  |
